Children need space and freedom to grow. They need an atmosphere of warmth and trust in which to freely express their thoughts and emotions.
These same things, however, can also be said for parents. They, too, need space and freedom to grow. They, too, need a family climate conducive to the free expression of ideas and feelings.
All too often, however, it seems the needs of parents are being sacrificed to the wishes and behavior of their children, or vice versa. Either way, the consequences are usually disastrous for both parent and child. Resentments build, tempers flare, and, in the final analysis, neither party gets what he or she really wants – a healthy and happy relationship with the other. In short, nobody wins.
The point of all this is that a satisfactory balance must be obtained. For example, your decision to have children brought with it a number of responsibilities and commitments. Yet no one would argue that with that decision you were obligated to sell your personal happiness down the river.
Each set of parents, then, must work this out for themselves, carefully balancing the needs of the children for optimal growth and development with their own needs for self-expression, harmony, and peace of mind.
These are among the main reasons why we at the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring have created our trio of evidence-based parenting skill-building programs, our New Confident Parenting Program for parents of all cultural background, our Effective Black Parenting Program for parents of African American children, and our Los Ninos Bien Educados Program for parents of Latino children.
To better balance a parents’ needs and rights with those of their children, we urge you to obtain the Parent Handbook of the most appropriate program for your family and use what is taught to bring greater peace and harmony to your home. These handbooks also make great gifts for friends, relatives and colleagues.
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