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SPANKING: THE ULTIMATE CONTRADICTION – A NEW CICC VIDEO

Spanking, Hitting, or Whipping Children is a Very Poor Way to Gain Their Cooperation and Respect.

This Video was created by the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring (CICC) to further encourage all parents to avoid such forms of violence with their children.

Children are people too. They deserve to be brought up with the same protection against being hit as is legally afforded to all adults and even those in prison.

There are many better, non-violent ways to relate to the children in our lives.

CICC’s ANTI-SPANKING Video indicates many Alternatives to Spanking:

10 GET HOME SAFELY RULES Video & Free Downloads!!

Here’s a New Video that the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring (CICC) has created as a public service to guide more children, youth and parents, to be as safe as possible, if they are stopped by the Police.

The Video deals with 10 very practical Rules to guide your behavior if you are stopped by Law Enforcement Officers.

You can also Download a Copy of these helpful Rules – in both English and Spanish – by Clicking HERE

Let’s All Get Home Safely!

And Here’s the Video:

JOIN CICC @ BLACK YOUTH NEED BLACK BOOKS FESTIVAL – THIS SATURDAY 1/14/17

The Vision/ReUnion Children’s Book, Game and Toy Festival

The Center for the Improvement of Child Caring would like to invite you to join us at this exciting festival to increase
Black children’s pride in their heritage.

This Saturday January 14, 2017 – From 11a.m. to 4p.m.

At The Vision Theatre
3341 43rd Place
Leimert Park
Los Angeles, California 90008

Online Admission $5 for adults & $2.50 per youth….
$10 adults & $5 youth at door

For more information and to Sign-Up online:
http://www.reunionnetwork.info/childrensfestival

CICC’s Dr. Alvy & Sharon Benson will be participating.

Stop by our table to say hello and receive the 10 Get Home Safely Rules for children who may be stopped by the police, and obtain books on CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program.

Hope to see You there!

Learning About “HOW CHILDREN LEARN” Just Got Easier!

The Center for the Improvement of Child Caring (CICC) is herein republishing its authoritative series of articles on “HOW CHILDREN LEARN”. This version will make it easier to keep your place when you go from one article to another.

These important articles are intended for both parents and for anyone who works with parents, including teachers, principals, counselors, therapists, doctors and nurses.

The series is written by CICC’s Founder and Executive Director, Dr. Kerby T. Alvy, Ph.D., a nationally respected authority on parenting and author of numerous books and programs on effective parenting and parenting education. He has an important Call to Action at the bottom of this announcement.

Click on the title to read each article of the series

1) Why Children Behave The Way They Do: A Series of Articles to better Educate all Parents

2A) Dr. Bandura’s Work Regarding Modeling

2B) The Five Modeling Effects

3A) Learning Through Consequences

3B) When a Positive Consequence Is Not Positive

3C) When Punishment and Corrective Consequences Don’t Work

CALL TO ACTION… PLEASE SHARE THIS ANNOUNCEMENT!

“The practical information in this series of articles can have the effect of making parents and other readers more knowledgeable about the main ways that children learn to act the way they do.

When someone is more knowledgeable, they are more likely to treat children better.

This is a very important outcome in and of itself.

Thus, we strongly encourage you to share this announcement with everyone who has and/or relates to children.

To make it easy for you to do this, here is a “Tiny url” address to this announcement:

http://tinyurl.com/h4juotw

Now you can copy and paste this address into an email or share on social media.

By sharing this announcement, you are doing something wonderful for the children of this world!

Thank you in advance for your kindness, Dr. Kerby T. Alvy”

Learning Why “WE MUST STOP HITTING CHILDREN” Just Got Easier!

The Center for the Improvement of Child Caring (CICC) is herein republishing its authoritative series of articles on why “WE MUST STOP HITTING CHILDREN”. This version has been created to make it easier to keep your place when you go from one article to another.

These important articles are intended for both parents and for anyone who works with parents, including teachers, principals, counselors, therapists, doctors and nurses.

The brilliant contemporary celebrity, Louis CK, has a fine perspective on this issue. Click on his picture to appreciate his wisdom…

Louis C K on Hitting is Crazy

The series is written by CICC’s Founder and Executive Director, Dr. Kerby T. Alvy, a nationally respected authority on parenting and author of numerous books and programs on effective parenting and parenting education. He has an important Call to Action at the bottom of this announcement.

Click on the title to read each article of the series

Part 1 Children Are People Too

Part 2 Definition of Physical Punishment

Part 3 Hitting Children Is Very Common

Part 4 Approval of Hitting Is Declining

Part 5 Hitting Is Used For A Variety Of Reasons

Part 6 Are Physically Punished Children Better Behaved?

Part 7 Do State Laws Define Allowable Vs. Prohibited Physical Punishment?

PART 8 Human Rights Considerations

Part 9 Countries Who Have Outlawed Hitting Children

Part 10 Conclusions and What to Do Instead of Hitting Children

CALL TO ACTION… PLEASE SHARE THIS ANNOUNCEMENT!

“The information in this series of articles has the potential to prevent the abuse of children. That goal is so very important to our communities and nation. Thus, we strongly encourage you to share this series with your family members, friends and colleagues.

To make it easy for you to do this, here is a “Tiny url” address to this announcement:

http://tinyurl.com/zvfg5u8

Now you can copy and paste this address into an email or share on social media.

By sharing this announcement, you are doing something wonderful for the children of this world.

Thank you in advance for your kindness, Dr. Kerby T. Alvy”

Effective Black Parenting Instructor Training Workshop Oct. 24-28, 2016 Washington, DC

All arrangements have been made for this Workshop. It is being conducted in cooperation with the DC Children’s Trust Fund, through which enrollments can be made.

Go directly to the Home Page of the Trust Fund by clicking Here and Scroll to the bottom of the Page where you will see “CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Training”. There you will find Program Descriptions and Enrollment Procedures.

Here is some of the pertinent information about the Workshop…

1) PURPOSE: To learn how to deliver Classes in Center for the Improvement of Child Caring’s (CICC) Effective Black Parenting Program.

2) WHAT YOU GET: 5 Days of Professional Training, a Complete Instructor’s Kit of materials needed to run Classes, and Certification to conduct Classes.

3) ENROLLMENT FEE: $1,395.00 (which includes Complete Instructor’s Kit)

4) WORKSHOP LEADER: Ruth M. Rich, M.A. (who has conducted numerous classes)

5) LOCATION: Children’s National Medical Center, 111 Michigan Avenue NW, Washington, D.C. 20010

6) TIME COMMITMENT: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM (Monday-Friday)

By completing this Workshop, You will be joining over 5,000 colleagues in 44 States and the District of Columbia who have been similarly trained over the last 4 decades.

CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program has won numerous awards, and is considered to be an evidence-based National Model.

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Dr. Alvy receiving congratulations from President Clinton for CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program.

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To obtain Instructional Materials for CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program, Click here

To learn more about CICC & Dr. Alvy, Click here

Great Success with Effective Black Parenting Workshops and… 2 More Scheduled!

Two new Effective Black Parenting instructor training workshops in Washington, D.C. and Los Angeles have been scheduled!

The workshop in DC will take place the week of October 24-28, 2016. It will be held at Children’s National Medical Center, 111 Michigan Avenue NW, Washington, D.C. 20010. It will be led by Ruth M. Rich, M.A., who has taught numerous classes and seminars in the Effective Black Parenting Program. sororruth2-corr_cropEBP Parents Handbook_3879

There are openings in that workshop. The enrollment fee is $1395 for the five days of professional training. The fee includes a complete Kit of educational materials to use in running classes in this evidence-based program, and certification to conduct classes.

To enroll please contact Mr. Samuel Tramel, the Executive Director of the DC Children’s Trust Fund. He can be reached at (202) 299-0900 Ext. 24 or stramel@dcctf.org. The Children’s Trust Fund is partnering with CICC in organizing and running this workshop.

The upcoming workshop in Los Angeles is scheduled for September 19-23, 2016 and it is sold out. It is being sponsored by Shields for Families and the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS).

PRIOR WORKSHOPS

The new workshops are following on the heels of two very successful workshops which were conducted on August 24-28, 2016 in the Los Angeles area. Both of those workshops were supported by the County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) and two local non-profits, Shields for Families and Prototypes. Both were attended by service providing personnel from child welfare agencies.

The accompanying photo was taken at the graduation of the workshop that Shields for Families sponsored. In the middle of the first row is Dr. Alvy, CICC’s Founder and Executive Director, and next to Dr. Alvy, wearing the beautiful medallion, is Ms. Ida Collier, CICC’s National Trainer who led that workshop.

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Below is a link to the video of the graduates speaking about the impact the workshop and the program had on them.

It’s worth taking the time to view the entire video because their comments are both powerful and poignant. They share how they have begun to successfully use the workshop skills and ideas with their clients and their own family members.
Click Here to view the video.

Los Angeles County Embraces CICC Parenting Programs ___ by Kerby T. Alvy, Ph.D.

Through its Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), the County of Los Angeles has recently and is currently making a new and large commitment to insuring that its families receive the many parenting education benefits of the Center for the Improvement of Child Caring’s national model parenting skill-building programs.

This DCFS is the largest public child welfare agency in the United States and serves the 10 million residents of Los Angeles County. Over the last 30 years it often contracted directly with CICC to train its children service workers to deliver classes in CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program for Parents of African American Children and classes in CICC’s Los Ninos Bien Educados Parenting Program for Parents of Latino Children with the clients the department serves.

During 2015 and 2016, DCFS has indirectly contracted with CICC to train many of its staff members and the staffs of community-based child welfare groups to be able to conduct these highly effective classes. They have and are currently doing this by awarding grants to local child welfare groups who, in turn, contract with CICC to run Parenting Instructor Training Workshops at their agencies in different areas of the county.

The first of this type of creative arrangement took place the week of August 24-28, 2015 at the Antelope Valley offices of the Los Angeles Children’s Bureau. That workshop was to prepare instructors to deliver classes in CICC’s Effective Black Parenting Program and it has already resulted in the delivery of several very successful classes, which is one of the reasons that DCFS has continued and expanded these sorts on contractual arrangements.EBP Parents Handbook_3879

The second such arrangement took place at the offices of El Projecto del Barrio in Panorama City the week of May 9-13, 2016. It taught CICC’s Los Ninos Bien Educados Program and was also very well received. See videos of that workshop on the Videos/Photos page of CICC’s website.Los Ninos Book Cover_English_crop

The current week of August 15-19, 2016 is witnessing two more such workshops in the Effective Black Parenting Program in the Pomona and Hawthorne areas of the county. These are being hosted by the Prototypes (Pomona) and the Shields for Families (Hawthorne) agencies.

Another workshop in the Effective Black Parenting Program will be hosted by the Shields for Families agency the week of September 19-23, 2016 in the Long Beach area.

All of these workshops are being led by CICC’s National Trainers of Parenting Instructors. You can meet one of these National Trainers, Mr. Carl Shackelford, on the Videos/Photos page of the CICC website. He is seen leading the graduation of a prior Effective Black Parenting workshop in the Los Angeles area. Carl will be leading the September 19-23, 2016 Workshop in Long Beach, CA.

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Altogether the five workshops mentioned in this article will train a total of 85 new instructors. They in turn will be educating hundred of more parents to be more sensitive and effective in raising their children, and thereby helping to prevent the abuse of hundreds of children.

During these times when so many people are wondering whether Black and Brown lives matter, it is especially commendable that L.A. County’s DCFS has taken such important leadership in making all of this happen!

If your agency, department, school or religious organization would like to bring similar benefits to your area, CICC can arrange to conduct an instructor training workshop in your community during a week that is convenient for you.

To explore this possibility, please complete and return a Workshop Application Form.

Why Children Behave the Way They Do: Article 3C By Kerby T. Alvy Ph.D.

Article 3C: When Punishment and Corrective Consequences Don’t Work By Kerby T. Alvy Ph.D.

You may be thinking right now of how you have repeatedly punished or corrected your children for certain things that they do, but somehow they keep right on doing those things anyway. How can that happen? I really don’t know the details as to what forms of punishment and correction you use and what behaviors you choose to punish, but I can offer you a few educated guesses.

First of all, there may be a good chance that your child will simply not get caught misbehaving. Children are usually very aware of what behaviors are likely to bring punishment, but they are also very aware of how likely they are to get caught at them. Of course, if they don’t get caught, they don’t get punished. It’s as simple as that.

“O.K.,” you may be saying, “but what about those things he does right under my nose? He knows I’ll notice it and punish him for it, but that doesn’t seem to stop him. How do you explain that?” That brings me to my second educated guess.

Certain behaviors may have both positive and negative consequences. If younger brother has been teasing older brother unmercifully all day long, older brother might suddenly find it very positive to land a few punches on him. Even though older brother knows you will punish his fighting, the sheer delight of revenging himself on his younger tormenter, as well as the benefits to his peace of mind for having brought that teasing to a halt, may be well worth the cost of enduring any corrective consequences his parents hand out to him. In other words, if a behavior continues to occur, despite the fact it is often and perhaps severely corrected, there are probably some powerful rewards serving to maintain that behavior.

Let’s look at yet another example of how this works. Little Darlene feels that she hasn’t been getting enough parental attention these days. She has tried hard to please her parents, but it seems that they just never notice when she is behaving appropriately. It won’t take her long, however, to figure out that misbehavior will get her all the parental attention she can handle. Since negative attention is often better than no attention at all, it won’t be surprising if Darlene soon becomes a consistent behavior problem. All this because no one took the time to reward her good behavior with positive forms of attention.

You see, kids want their parents to notice them, and, in the long run, most of them would rather be corrected than ignored altogether. Clinic files are filled with cases of children who simply wanted parental attention and resorted to unacceptable means to get it. Many parents don’t realize that they have the power to improve relationships with their children simply by effectively giving them attention.

With information from this Series of Articles, the next step is to be sure that you are giving children as much attention as possible in loving and consistent ways.

All of the Parent Training Programs that CICC offers show you numerous ways of conveying positive and consistant attention, all of which will reduce the need to use corrective consequences. The Programs also provide many ways of using corrective consequences which do not involve the use of physical force, i.e., non-violent corrective consequences.

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Click here to learn more about and how to obtain the Instructor Kit of each Program or just the Parent Handbook of each Program.