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2016 Los Niños Bien Educados Program Instructor Workshop

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CICC is excited to announce that, for the first time in several years, it will be conducting a 2016 parenting instructor training workshop to prepare more individuals to offer its Los Niños Bien Educados Program for parents of Latino children.

Over 1000 health, mental health, social service agencies and departments, schools and religious institutions nationwide have previously had their staffs or consultants trained and certified through these 5-day workshops.

The 2016 workshop will be in Southern California the week of May 9th – 13th, 2016. It will be conducted in cooperation with the organization, El Proyecto Del Barrio, at their offices in Panorama City.
Enrollment in this workshop is limited to 20 participants.

You can learn more about the program & the workshops by visiting:

(1) Parenting Programs @ http://www.ciccparenting.org/parenting-programs.php

(2) Research and News Articles @ http://www.ciccparenting.org/news.php

(3) Instructor Workshops @ http://www.ciccparenting.org/instructor-workshops.php

The cost per workshop participant is $1395 for the 5 days of intensive training by Dr. Martha Lopez, our Senior National Trainers-of-Instructors in this highly valued program.

The enrollment fee includes the complete Instructor’s Kit of educational materials that are needed to run the 12 session parenting classes in the program. See http://www.mcssl.com/store/ciccparenting/los-nios-bien-educados-parenting-program-complete-instructors-kit-in-english. The Kit costs $415 on its own.

Save the week. Enrollment information will be available soon.

“Spotlight” on the Institutional Abuse of Children

“Spotlight” on the Institutional Abuse of Children
By Kerby T. Alvy, Ph.D.

The compelling new film, Spotlight, deserves to be seen by everyone who cares about the safety and welfare of children!la-et-mn-spotlight-review-20151106-001

The film dramatically tells the true story of the Boston Globe’s uncovering and revealing of the sexual abuse of poor children by 70 Catholic priests throughout that city. It further details how the church shifted the priests to other locations and the institutional conspiracy to keep these cases unknown to the public.

These 2001 events eventually led to a worldwide scandal of enormous proportions.

A fine review of the film by Kenneth Turan of the Los Angeles Times, along with footage from the film, is available here. Mr. Turan closes his article by noting that “Spotlight is both damning and inspiring, depressing and heartening. Though it is set more than a decade in the past, it’s the “All the President’s Men” for our time, and, boy, do we need it now.”

The Catholic Church, however, is not alone in having some of its personnel engage in abusive actions with children and adolelecents. Other denominations have had their own secrets, as have other institutions that serve children, including public schools and juvenile justice settings.

Such abuses rank right up with those committed by the over three million parents who are reported each year for child abuse and neglect. All betray the basic trust in adults that that is crucial for the healthy development of children.

The film, of course, could not include the steps that the Catholic Church has been taking since the turn of the century in an attempt to remedy this horrible situation. In that regard, we alert you to an 2010 article, Pope to Sex Abuse Victims: I am truly sorry.” (Pope to sex abuse victims: ‘I am truly sorry’ | National Catholic Reporter). This balanced article includes the many actions the Catholic Church is now taking to halt these abuses and comments on whether they are doing enough.

Once again, we at CICC urge everyone to see this eye-opening film — and to become more aware of the need to protect all children from all forms of abuse.

Positive Parenting Has Lasting Impact for Generations

An important study that looked at data on three generations of families shows that “positive parenting” not only has positive impacts on adolescents, but on the way they parent their own children.

Positive parenting was defined at showing a great deal of warmth to children, being involved in their daily lives, monitoring their activities and being consistent in their use of disciple.

In the first study of its kind, David Kerr, assistant professor of psychology at Oregon State University, and project director Deborah Capaldi, and co-authors Katherine Pears and Lee Owen of the Eugene-based Oregon Social Learning Center, examined surveys from 206 boys who were considered “at-risk” for juvenile delinquency. The boys, then in elementary school, and their parents were interviewed and observed, which gave Kerr and colleagues information about how the boys were parented.

Starting in 1984, the boys met with researchers every year from age 9 to 33. As the boys grew up and started their own families, their partners and children began participating in the study. In this way, the researchers learned how the men’s childhood experiences influenced their own parenting.

”This study is especially exciting because we had already identified processes by which risk behaviors and poor parenting may be carried across generations,” Capaldi said. “Professor Kerr has now demonstrated that there is an additional pathway of intergenerational influence via positive parenting and development.”

Kerr said there is often an assumption that people learn parenting methods from their own parents. In fact, he said most research shows that a direct link between what a person experiences as a child and what she or he does as a parent is fairly weak.

“Instead, what we find is that ‘negative’ parenting such as hostility and lack of follow-through leads to ‘negative’ parenting in the next generation not through observation, but by allowing problem behavior to take hold in adolescence,” Kerr said. “For instance, if you try to control your child with anger and threats, he learns to deal in this way with peers, teachers, and eventually his own children. If you do not track where your child is, others will take over your job of teaching him about the world.

“But those lessons may involve delinquency and a lifestyle that is not compatible with becoming a positive parent,” Kerr pointed out.

The researchers’ prior work showed that children who experienced high levels of negative parenting were more likely to be antisocial and delinquent as adolescents. Boys who had these negative characteristics in adolescence more often grew up to be inconsistent and ineffective parents, and to have children with more negative and challenging behaviors.

“We knew that these negative pathways can be very strong,” Kerr said. “What surprised us is how strong positive parenting pathways are as well. Positive parenting is not just the absence of negative influences, but involves taking an active role in a child’s life.”

The researchers found that children who had parents who monitored their behavior, were consistent with rules and were warm and affectionate were more likely to have close relationships with their peers, be more engaged in school, and have better self-esteem.

“So part of what good parenting does is not only protect you against negative behaviors but instill positive connections with others during adolescence that then impact how you relate with your partner and your own child as an adult,” Kerr said

“This research shows that when we think about the value of prevention, we should consider an even wider lens than is typical,” he added. “We see now that changes in parenting can have an effect not just on children but even on grandchildren.”

The study was funded by grants from the National Institute on Drug Abuse and the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, and published in a special issue of the journal Developmental Psychology which was devoted to the findings of the few long-term studies of intergenerational family processes.

An obvious implication of this important study is that all parents should be given opportunities to learn and use the positive parenting approaches that are taught in modern parent training programs, including those available through the CICC (see Parenting Programs).

Presidential Candidates

Candidates for the 2016 presidential election would be doing a fine public service if they discussed how their administration will promote effective parenting and parenting education.

We at CICC have created a position paper to provide all candidates with research-based definitions and with examples of projects that would make America a more family-friendly nation. These can be used in policy statements and on the campaign trail.

A copy of this position paper is available here:

Effective Parenting and Parent Education_Presidential_2015

You are herein encouraged to question the candidates about effective parenting and parenting education using the ideas from this paper.

Get Home Safely

Encounters with police have proven deadly in cities across our nation. Especially so if you are a youth of color.

We at CICC have responded by adopting and using a set of practical rules or guidelines for parents to share with their children and families. These rules are designed to insure that children and youth and anyone else who is stopped by police “get home safely.”

The 10 rules were developed by the Children’s Defense Fund.

Here they are:

Get Home Safely Rules

We have begun sharing these as part of our parenting instructor training workshops which prepare people to conduct high quality parenting classes in their communities. The rules fit in perfectly with all of the basic parenting skills that are taught in these workshops.

We urge you to make extensive use of these safety rules. If you are interested in also bringing a parenting instructor training workshop to your community, click INSTRUCTOR WORKSHOPS to learn about these workshops and how to bring them to your group or community.